Today on my blog Stillborn and Still Breathing, I am advertising White Signs of Grief which is a Website I founded with my sister to help spread awareness about the grief and pain family members experience after the loss of a child. We started White Signs of Grief in an effort to give a voice and put a face to this type of grief and to let them share their words of advice. Below is the story of what drove me to start on this endeavor.
May peace find you,
After the death of my daughter to stillbirth, I was immersed in grief and shock, but most of all, I felt alone. Your children are not supposed to die before you; they are not supposed to die before they are even born. I initially thought no one could understand my pain, but then the sympathy cards came in and people started to reveal their own losses to me. Losses that were kept secret. Losses I felt like I should have known about. Miscarriages, late term pregnancy loss, stillbirth, SIDs, cancer, playground accidents, drunk driving, and more.
Why did everyone keep their grief a secret, why didn't I know about these childless mothers, fathers, grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, and family members? I decided I needed to see their faces, to connect, to hear their advice, their words of truth about the pain and the anguish, just as much as I wanted to hear their thoughts about hope and love they still feel for their deceased child. That is why I started White Signs of Grief.
If you are a grieving mom, dad, grandparent, aunt, uncle, cousin, sister, brother, friend, or other family member to a child that has died too soon, please share your 'white sign of grief' with others at www.whitesignsofgrief.blogspot.com or e-mail your photo to firstname.lastname@example.org. You can also like us on Facebook I look forward to seeing your face and your words of hope and truth about your grief journey after child loss.
May your beloved child's spirit live on in some way and some form.
May peace find you,
Founder, Lindsey Henke
Stillborn at 40 weeks, 4 days pregnant