Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Please Remember Me on Mother's Day

I am dreading this Mother's Day.  I would like to skip it. 

But, I am still a mother and I am choosing to celebrate my different kind of motherhood anyway.  You can help by remembering me this Mother's Day.  Some ways of celebrating for me and with me are listed below.

1. You could send an e-mail or a text.

2. I like plants but flowers are always nice.

3. You could give me a ring.  A call, I mean.  (Jewelry is nice but let's stay on a budget here. You can leave that for my husband! Wink. Wink.)

4. You could write Nora's name somewhere neat and send me a picture.  That's what I'm doing for other mothers in Catherine's Mother's Day Name Event writer of Twinkle of Light, for bereaved mammas like me.

5. You could send the below paragraph to The Ellen Show. Asking her to bring awareness of pregnancy loss and infant death on her show sometime. Click here to cut and past the paragraph into an e-mail to Ellen. Or share your own story and let me know about it.

Hi Ellen,

I wanted to let you know that I believe that pregnancy loss is an important issue to talk about on your show.  One in four women experience pregnancy loss iby miscarriage, pre-term labor, or stillbirth.  I believe your show is the perfect place to bring more awareness to the issue.  You know, October 15th is pregnancy loss awareness day?  You could do something then.  Please remember different kinds of mothers.  Mothers who carry silent grief in their hearts instead of their children in their arms. 

Your Name Here   

6. You could feed the birds in your neighborhood and take a picture for me.  Birds remind me of Nora.

7.  You could spend time with your children if you have them or you could get in touch with your child-like self.  Remembering that children and childhood are a blessing.  Childhood goes by fast and for some it's gone before one can enjoy it.  Let me know what you did.  Even if it was just giving your child a longer hug, or if you don't have kids, fly a kite like you did when you were little and take a pic for me.  Live today to the fullest dedicating it to those who can't.

8. You could pay it forward and dedicate your action to Nora.  Tell me what you did.  Something simple, like paying for the cup of coffee for the person behind you at Starbucks will do.

9.  You could send an extra something to the mother in your life and tell her how lucky you both are to have each other.  Send me a message and tell me about it.

10.  Or finally, you could send in a White Sign of Grief about your love and grief over the loss of your child (or that of Nora) at

What ever your gesture.  Please Remember Me on Mother's Day.  Oh, and remember your mom and all the other great mothers with children that are living and deceased!!

Much Thanks,

Still Breathing...Lindsey

P.S. I hope it doesn't sound like I'm begging for gifts.  Just letting you know that it's okay to remember me on Mother's Day.  It's not going to bring up painful memories or make me sad if you acknowledge that I am a mother.  Actually, you will bring joy to my heart.

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  1. This is wonderful. I'm excited to do some of these. Happy early Mother's Day :-)

  2. I feel the exact same way about Mother's Day, Lindsey. Thanks for sharing the ideas. I've started my Mother's Day Project photos, and will be sending them off next week. Wishing you peace especially for the next couple of weeks. Always remember, you do not face this alone. We've got this, right?? ;)

  3. I am also really dreading Mother's day this year. It is not how I envisioned it at all! I agree that I do not want gifts, I just want to be recognized. We are mother's. Not in the traditional sense but we are still mother's. Thanks for sharing!

  4. I've also been thinking about what Mother's Day will mean to me. I don't think it sounds like you are begging for gifts at all, just asking for recognition and giving ideas. So many of our friends and family don't know what to do, and this is a great way to help them, as well as yourself.


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