The following books have been influential in my grief journey thus far.
We received this book from the hospital staff. We would have never made it through the logistical parts of dealing with pregnancy loss and the death of our daughter if it was not for Empty Arms, by Sherokee Isle. She walks you through how to get through the first moments in the hospital after you are told your baby has died, to how to make memories and spend time with your child after your baby is born and has passed, as well as how to plan a funeral service. This book provided us with a guide on how to navigate the logistics of your tragic loss during a time when you were expecting great joy.
Book DescriptionSurviving the First Hours and Beyond Revised and updated! This classic book is one of the first given to newly bereaved parents to offer guidance in decision-making after their baby's death and to assist caregivers as they support families. Empty Arms encourages families to meet their babies and say hello before rushing to say goodbye. With compassion that comes from Sherokee and David's experience of having lived through the death of their son Brennan, the book offers guidance and practical suggestions for the decision-making at the time (including why and how one might see, hold, and memorialize one's baby) and over time (such as how to handle such times as anniversaries, holidays and the birth of other babies in the parents' close circle.) Family and friends can learn how to understand the loss and be supportive of the bereaved families.
I found the following books to be extremely helpful in my first few days after the loss of Nora. These books allowed me to connect with other mothers who had gone through the same experience I had and come out on the other side of grief, still surviving and living full happy lives, no matter how scary and fragile everyday life maybe after you have lost your heart.
Since Nora was our first child, it was important for me to find stories of women who went on to have successful pregnancies and children. These books provided me with hope to what might future could look like two years from now. It also allowed me to connect with other mothers who had experienced a stillbirth, but at my own pace, without having to go to a support group and share my own story, which I wasn't ready for in the first days after Nora's passing.